RM2's RoCoI has "Ethereal Mastery", whose level 5 spell, "Phasing" has a very tiny bit about the matter. It pretty much says that creatures in the normal and the ethereal planes don't interact (including not being able to interact in any way —attacks, spells, etc.). Only creatures living in the ethereal plane (or with a strong link to it, such as undead, who "draw their power from the aether" [EC, p11, about aether]) can fully interact with each others. Read the spell for more details (well, not much, in truth, but…)